As I sit here trying to think about what I want to write about for my next blog post, I see a favorite quote of mine pop up in my Instagram feed – one I put out earlier but is suddenly so significant at this moment for me. The quote by Sue Atkins, goes like this; “There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be a real one.”
The reason this really hits me is, this morning, I did a pretty dumb thing and interfered with something that was between my son and his daughter. Basically, I thought I knew better than he did. The conversation went something like this, Me: “Don’t you think you should….?” Him: “Wow, you sure have changed your tune! I’m only doing what you would have done with me.” BAM! There it was – like a ton of bricks crashing down on me! I was judging HIM for something I taught him! And on top of that, I was trying to tell him what I thought was the “right” way to handle the situation.
Ugh!! I’ve been a parent for over 35 years and I’m still trying to figure this out. Sure, I’ve learned a lot along the way and that’s why creating Game Plan Parenting has been so important to me. I want other parents to know that there really is no perfect way to parent…only their own REAL way. And for each family, that’s going to be entirely different, and it should be. The point is, we all get our opportunities to learn along the way and it’s never going to be perfect, but it will be real. And just like I thought I knew better for my son and his daughter, he reminded me that this was his game to figure out…in his own real way. I have to say, I almost hesitated sharing this story because it definitely shows my own epic parenting fail, but I guess that’s just me, being real too…
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