Sometimes as a mom you feel like you're running on fumes. With everything we have to juggle with our children, partners, work, home, family... the list is never-ending. Sometimes it just doesn't feel sustainable.... or is it? Sounds like you need a little bit of sustainability for yourself! Personal Sustainability is taking the concept that you need to take care of yourself and create systems to sustain yourself, otherwise you may just... start breaking down. Here's a little insight into What personal sustainability is, why you need it and how you can use what we call a "Parenting Tribe of Allies" to help you keep it up!
Personal Sustainability is finding systems to make sure that you and your well-being are sustainable. Sustainable means, by definition, "able to be maintained or upheld at a certain rate or level." Defining what your values and beliefs are, and then figuring out a system that can help you to uphold them without burnout is the direction you want to go. That looks different for every mama!
For example, here's what Mandi, our Online Business Manager, does. She defined her values and knows that she really values being on time, efficient, and making the best decisions for her mental and physical health as well as her family's. So to make sure that is sustainable, she chose lifestyles that would be able to s that. She uses a planner, eats a whole foods plant based diet, makes time for her personal care routine. These are the things that help her to feel supported, and prepared to honor her values and beliefs. Yours may not look like this, but finding your version of your systems is what will help you in the long run!
I’m going to admit something to you...I don’t like to ask for help. I don’t know why exactly, but I’ve always seen myself as the “caretaker” and have a really hard time breaking away from that ‘faulty’ thinking. And I say ‘faulty’ because it really is. I somehow developed the belief that I’m the only one who cares about what I need and quite frankly, that’s not true. I have a wonderfully supportive hubby, family and friends! So what’s with the bogus beliefs?
As moms, this is a great big pit many of us fall into. And we fall hard. So hard in fact, that getting out of that pit is the last thing we think of doing because the short road to it is paved with guilt, self-doubt, and an extreme lack of self-compassion. As humans, we are hard-wired to be connected, so why do we disconnect so much? Because our brains tend to focus on the negative, we sometimes forget all the check marks we have in the ‘opportunities’ column. Why? Because we get so darn caught up in swatting away the ‘problems’…thus the overwhelm that starts to creep in.
But, my dear, you DO have opportunities. Whether you know it or not, you already have your very own PTA, a.k.a. ‘Parenting Tribe of Allies’.
Your PTA is made up of all the ‘opportunities’ you have that you don’t always take time to notice. Taking stock in your strengths! As human's we're all unique, and we like to think here at GPP that mama's have a special sauce that helps them be super heroes! It’s also made up of the people in your life who support those opportunities. People like family members, your spouse, friends, and even your kids can be your biggest cheerleaders! In order to call in your PTA, you need to:
Take stock in yourself Mamas! Call in your tribe and thrive!! You have all the resources to be the most amazing mama, and YOU that you can be, right in front of you! You just have to call in the troops to help you keep it going!
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