Create Deeper Connections With Your Kids Using These 5 Principles

Uncategorized Jan 14, 2020

Truly connecting with another human is simply what we’re made for! Humans need other humans! That goes doubly for parents and kids. Maybe we made them, but they come into this world, beautiful and uniquely their own little beings. That’s why we need to be VERY intentional if we are going to genuinely connect with them.

Establishing strong connections with your kids is the foundation that underlies all the other parts of your family. It’s about forging a deep understanding of love, trust, and commitment, and that, my friends, takes intentional effort to make it happen. It requires you to be present, empathetic, sprinkled with a keen sense of awareness of one another in order to lay this vital groundwork!

What if I told you that it’s not about establishing who’s the boss, or creating some sort of power strategy, but rather, creating a structure of emotional safety, boundaries, and deep understanding that will establish a solid core where values, thoughts, and emotions are honored. Connection is not necessarily a thing you do - it’s a way of being...a practice; not just a tool to pull out when you think it’s time to tune it up. And the more you practice it, the more connection will integrate into your being. 

So how DO we make connections with our kids? Here are the key components to family connections:

  • Establishing a Deep Sense of Trust & Intimacy - Establishing a space that feels safe and supportive, so kids feel free to express how they feel - even if they don’t know what that feeling is.
  • Empathetic Understanding - The ability to be “with” one another and understand what they’re feeling without fixing.
  • Understanding the Feelings BEHIND the Behaviors - There has never been a behavior that didn’t have a feeling behind it..Ever.
  • Knowing How to Reconnect After Conflict - Conflict can be messy and our first instinct is to get the heck away from it, but approaching each situation when the storm has passed is crucial in working through conflict and not around it.
  • Establishing an Emotional Bank Account - When we’re at our best, we do our best. That’s when we add bonus points to our emotional bank account so that when things do go awry, we can get back to our best quickly and without too much damage.

Ultimately, your job as a parent is to send them off confidently and courageously! Setting a foundation of connection will sustain you as a family throughout the generations.

“There are two things we should give our children; one is roots and the other is wings.” Author Unknown

There’s no better way to connect with your kids than to create some ‘quality time’. It doesn’t have to be elaborate or expensive, it just needs to happen! That’s why we’ve created some “Creative Conversation Cards” to help you get the ball rolling! Click HERE to access your FREE sample pack!


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