Whether you are a new parent, or a seasoned one there is one thing we have all come into contact with.... well meaning grandparents. Usually they want to know how your doing, or how to help, but it can really end up sounding more like a string of questions, opinions and judgments. You want to keep a great relationship with them, but sometimes it can feel overwhelming! So, what is the key to creating a healthy, happy relationship for everyone? Boundaries!
I’m not here to tell you HOW to parent, but rather to help you and your partner create boundaries that empower your parenting without disrupting your relationships. However, setting those boundaries does not have to be stressful. Here’s 4 steps to setting powerful boundaries:
Um…so how did “Holidays, Round 1” go for you? I like to think of Thanksgiving as the first round of dealing with all those lovely holiday triggers that can come from being around people who know us so well…including all of our pressure points!
Did you hear anything like, “I just don’t understand why you would let your son/daughter do that…”, or “If that were me, I wouldn’t let my son/daughter talk to me like that…” Everyone wants to know how you’re doing, but it just sounds like a string of questions, opinions, and judgments!
AHHH…not so fun…You probably found yourself sneaking into the kitchen to stuff another piece of pumpkin pie into your mouth to keep yourself from doing or saying something that could start another round of Family Feud!
Family time can bring out the best and the worst in all of us…I get it. However, it’s also an opportunity to step back a little and...
Parenting is HARD! There – I said it!
Yep, sometimes it can feel like a downright disaster! I’m here to tell you that no one comes through this experience unscathed. Without planning to, I personally traveled down the road with all the potholes and dead-end signs. I am a parent, a step-parent, and a grandparent, and I have come to learn that creating an environment of communication and connection is essential to maneuvering your own bumpy road. You know what? I still don’t have all the answers, but I will tell you a little secret…I discovered a way for parents to unlock their own greatness and truly help their children discover their own. While I can’t give it all away, I can give you the four most basic skills to make it a little bit easier!
Consciousness: If you’re reading this, I bet you’re saying “Well, I’d have to be conscious to even be here!” While I totally agree with that, I’m talking about going a...
When the last of my kids left home a couple of years ago, I had this deep and sudden urge to get a dog. I mean, I’ve always loved dogs, so no big surprise there, but why so urgent now? I literally would have dreams about dogs and I constantly bugged my husband about why we NEEDED a dog. Unfortunately, he wasn’t quite on board with it like I was. Something about them needing a lot of attention, you can never go anywhere…blah, blah, blah.
I did start to wonder though, why was I becoming so obsessed with this idea? Did I really want a dog, or was I trying to fill some void? Not so surprisingly, I realized that I really, really, missed my kids. And here’s the thing, most of them live nearby and we do get to see a lot of them, so I guess I should stop whining about it, right? But somehow, this was different. It was the end of an era, and even though I loved the thought of being an empty nester, the opposite was playing out for me in a deeply emotional way and I...
By now, many of you have already started shopping for the holidays and are probably wondering, “Where am I going to put all this stuff?” It can be pretty overwhelming when you bring more things into your home on top of the things you already have! I don’t know about you, but this time of year makes me want to clear things out…maybe it’s my way of getting rid of the old and getting ready for the new…new year, new opportunities, new stuff…
De-cluttering means taking a long, hard look at what stays and what goes. So…where to start? First of all, anything that is broken or is missing pieces is definitely ready to go, and probably taking up valuable space! It’s also a great opportunity to examine what still has meaning for your child. Is it something sacred or treasured? That favorite toy they always just HAVE to have with them when you go ANYWHERE…that’s probably going to stay.
When it comes to kids, you probably...
Less is more, right? But when is more, better? When it comes to clutter, less is DEFINITELY more! But abundance…well more is ALWAYS better!
Many of us think of abundance as having a lot of everything; material or otherwise. But what if abundance wasn’t so much about what you have, but the value you place on what you have?
In that case, abundance might look a little different. Take a moment and look around you…what do you see in your life that brings meaning? I mean, real, true, meaning. I look around my home and I see people…people who mean EVERYTHING to me. That’s abundance to me…I see all the things that I need; food, a warm home, comfy clothes, and even things that I like, such as my favorite books or the things in I’ve collected my home that have special meaning to me.
These things may not be important to someone else, and that’s okay. Not everyone is going to like the way I’ve arranged my home or the dishes I put on my...
Sometimes it seems like our little miracles are more like little curses. Do you ever find yourself wondering what happened? No shame or judgment here! Whether we like to admit it or not, we’ve ALL had these same thoughts!
Want to know what happens? LIFE – that’s what happens! Stress at work, at home, at school, all around us. We all have our own way of experiencing and processing it – parents and children alike. When we’re at our best, we do our best, but sometimes it’s just…so…hard.
Let’s face it, even families with stellar relationships and top-notch communication skills struggle from time to time. The key to getting through it all is learning how to weather the storm, because the storm will come and you want to be prepared to come in for the clean-up with your very best tools. Game Plan Parenting is about establishing a firm foundation of awareness and high-level relationship skills in order to move through even the...
Kids watch and listen to EVERYTHING we say and do! In fact, they almost always pick up on the things we DO more than what we SAY. Ever wonder why that is? Well it’s actually pretty scientific. Research has shown that 75% and 90% of communication is non-verbal. With kids, that sometimes can show up in a wide array of behaviors, but not necessarily an explanation of what they’re feeling.
And even on the best of days, communication can fall apart in the blink of an eye. This happens especially when our kids misbehave. We might interpret it simply as bad behavior, but what if it was more of a “clue” about what’s REALLY going on with them?
Communicating with kids who are growing and learning how to live in this messy world can be like translating a foreign language, but there is Good News! You CAN learn to speak the language, or at least understand it!
Here at Game Plan Parenting, we get to the heart of communication – learning their language and...
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