Being a "Boy Mom"...One Perspective

Uncategorized Jan 11, 2019

They say that boys are easier than girls. Umm…no…not exactly. When you’re the mom of boys, you come to the shocking realization that you literally speak two different languages. I hate to sound cliché, but boys ARE different than girls…not harder or easier…just different.

I became a single parent when my boys were 8 and 15 years old, and looking back now, my biggest blunder was thinking that I had to be the “Dad” to teach my kids to be good men. What was I thinking? What I took on as my “Dad Persona” had to be tough about virtually EVERYTHING! Say “NO” first, don’t budge no matter what…never let them see you sweat…never give in…ever. It was so exhausting and not exactly the way to build relationships with teenage boys! In hindsight though, helping my boys become good men wasn’t at all about teaching them to be tough, but helping them understand the softer side of life. Every...

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There are no perfect parents...

Uncategorized Jan 11, 2019

As I sit here trying to think about what I want to write about for my next blog post, I see a favorite quote of mine pop up in my Instagram feed – one I put out earlier but is suddenly so significant at this moment for me. The quote by Sue Atkins, goes like this; “There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be a real one.”

The reason this really hits me is, this morning, I did a pretty dumb thing and interfered with something that was between my son and his daughter. Basically, I thought I knew better than he did. The conversation went something like this, Me: “Don’t you think you should….?” Him: “Wow, you sure have changed your tune! I’m only doing what you would have done with me.” BAM! There it was – like a ton of bricks crashing down on me! I was judging HIM for something I taught him! And on top of that, I was trying to tell him what I thought was the “right” way to handle the situation.

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New Beginnings...

Uncategorized Dec 30, 2018

Remember last week I told you that we were starting a new Christmas tradition in our family? Well, now I can share that my husband and I decided to write a “Christmas Love Letter” to each of our children and our granddaughter. We wanted to share with them all the things we love about them but don’t always have a chance to say. The intention was to just share…no expectations, and with absolutely no need to get anything in return.

So, on Christmas morning, they each opened their envelope and silently read what we wrote. And one by one, they received the gift of what was on our hearts and thanked us, some with a little mist in their eyes and some with a smile. Quite unexpectedly though, we did get something in return; a marvelous sense of time literally stopping as we shared that moment together…what a rare and beautiful gift!

How easily we forget how fast time can go by. Being a parent of adult children can really make you reflect more deeply on how...

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Tradition!

Uncategorized Dec 17, 2018

When you hear the word ‘tradition’, what do you think of? Of course, I immediately think about Fiddler on the Roof and the word ‘TRADITION’ booming in song! A very old memory indeed, but isn’t that what traditions are all about? Old and familiar ways of doing things…a place to go for comfort and routine.

When it comes to the holidays, ‘tradition’ is truly the essence of the season. We pass down lots of past family practices like; putting the same ornaments on the tree, using the same table cloth and decorations, or cooking the same dishes and special treats. And just like routines, traditions offer safety and structure to our kids – an opportunity to pause, take stock and spend time together - something families can benefit from all year round.

I’d like to challenge you though…what would it be like to create NEW traditions for the holidays? You might be a new family – either newly married and just beginning or...

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Dear Santa, All I want for Christmas is…

Uncategorized Dec 13, 2018

Christmas is the time when kids get to ask for things they want. Okay…that’s pretty much all year long, right? But what if you took this opportunity to turn the “ask” into something that could really reinforce what you and your family values and at the same time give them the things you know are a little more special to your kids.

Ads around the holidays are filled with “shiny things” that we want to jump right on believing they will make us SO happy. I’m not just talking about kids, we adults do it too! What’s one thing you can name that is popular right now that you just want to have?

Ever wonder why little kids love the boxes better than the toys? It’s because that box represents ALL the possibilities of play and not just one, focused activity. In fact, too much stuff can really put a damper on a child’s ability to explore their abundant imaginations. So, what would it be like to create a shopping list that not only...

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Making room for MORE!

Uncategorized Dec 07, 2018

By now, many of you have already started shopping for the holidays and are probably wondering, “Where am I going to put all this stuff?” It can be pretty overwhelming when you bring more things into your home on top of the things you already have! I don’t know about you, but this time of year makes me want to clear things out…maybe it’s my way of getting rid of the old and getting ready for the new…new year, new opportunities, new stuff…

De-cluttering means taking a long, hard look at what stays and what goes. So…where to start? First of all, anything that is broken or is missing pieces is definitely ready to go, and probably taking up valuable space! It’s also a great opportunity to examine what still has meaning for your child. Is it something sacred or treasured? That favorite toy they always just HAVE to have with them when you go ANYWHERE…that’s probably going to stay.

When it comes to kids, you probably...

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Bringing Abundance to the Holidays

Less is more, right? But when is more, better? When it comes to clutter, less is DEFINITELY more! But abundance…well more is ALWAYS better!

Many of us think of abundance as having a lot of everything; material or otherwise. But what if abundance wasn’t so much about what you have, but the value you place on what you have?

In that case, abundance might look a little different. Take a moment and look around you…what do you see in your life that brings meaning? I mean, real, true, meaning. I look around my home and I see people…people who mean EVERYTHING to me. That’s abundance to me…I see all the things that I need; food, a warm home, comfy clothes, and even things that I like, such as my favorite books or the things in I’ve collected my home that have special meaning to me.

These things may not be important to someone else, and that’s okay. Not everyone is going to like the way I’ve arranged my home or the dishes I put on my...

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That's a Wrap!

Okay…I lied…you never really wrap up your parenting! My kids are all grown up and my lessons still keep rolling in! But alas, I am definitely older, hopefully wiser, and always searching within myself for the awareness I need to keep my parent/adult child relationships strong.

If I could reach back to my younger self and offer some advice, I’d probably tell her to not be so hard on herself and let a lot of s%*$ go. There are no perfect parents, only parents who keep trying to learn and do it better the next time. I judged myself at every turn and reacted before I acted and I gotta tell you, that was less than delightful! And that’s why I created Game Plan Parenting…to share the message I wish I knew way back then.

In Module 6, you’ll get to pull together all the tools I wish I had when my kids were younger and wrap up your own personal game plan that you can go back to time and time again! This is not a program that will be sitting on a shelf...

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If only it were that simple...

Nothing about parenting is simple. Every day brings about new challenges, new opportunities, and new messes, so simplifying our lives can be the biggest challenge of all! We’ve become a society where being super busy is a high-level virtue, but is that really what we want or even need?

Research says that when we get out of balance, we suffer from all the signs of stress. Emotional, physical and mental breakdowns occur, and we find ourselves spinning around but not quite getting anywhere. And, we get so numb to those feelings, we think it’s normal.

We all want the very best for our kids, but what if that’s become just too much? The secret to getting to a place of balance is about stepping back and taking a great big look at what is “over-complicating” our lives and the lives of our kids. In Module 5 of Game Plan Parenting, we get to the heart of what that looks like, with the goal of strengthening ourselves and our families. We’ll learn how...

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After all, they are our own little miracles....

Uncategorized Oct 04, 2018

Sometimes it seems like our little miracles are more like little curses. Do you ever find yourself wondering what happened? No shame or judgment here! Whether we like to admit it or not, we’ve ALL had these same thoughts!

Want to know what happens? LIFE – that’s what happens! Stress at work, at home, at school, all around us. We all have our own way of experiencing and processing it – parents and children alike. When we’re at our best, we do our best, but sometimes it’s just…so…hard.

Let’s face it, even families with stellar relationships and top-notch communication skills struggle from time to time. The key to getting through it all is learning how to weather the storm, because the storm will come and you want to be prepared to come in for the clean-up with your very best tools. Module 4 of Game Plan Parenting is about establishing a firm foundation of awareness and high-level relationship skills in order to move through...

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